Pseudo-feminism

Author: Parul Sharma,  Edited by: Tufail Farooq

“OH CRAP, HE'S A PERV”!

Women mostly use this phrase when we get to know that this one person is body shaming or defaming or abusing a girl and after that we as a feminist start blathering about it, sharing the one sided story on our instagram, twitter, other social media without seeing or acknowledging about the counterpart which is when we become a pseudofeminist in this transaction. Consequence of it is could be really dangerous similar to that of the suicide committed by a young boy from Gurugram named Rahul {real name withheld}.

So can a boy molest a girl at the age 14 or 15, most of us will say YES and can a girl share incident of molestation after 2years, again mostly will say YES by presuming that she surely was into some trauma after that incident and blah-blah.

But all of us judged with no ear to hear the story from Rahul's side or never questioned the absence of proof supporting girl's account.

Is it because we are of the understanding that she is a girl and she would definitely not make such things about herself? The blatant support without acknowledging the facts and declaring that boy a PERVERT, RAPIST and what not is exactly what pseudofeminists are doing and more are following their lead.

I see many girls' Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and Whatsapp stories claiming to be feminists and hardly any of them know what actually being a feminist is and they end up being a pseudofeminist. A pseudofeminist desire is to fabricate a world regime by just women where as a feminist only wants to get treated equally and wants respect like any other humanbeing.

Many of the pseudofeminist says that men cannot be feminist but you know what anyone can be a feminist, a man or a woman or a trans who believes in equality of women is a feminist. A father who treats his daughter and son equally is a feminist. A husband who supports his wife to let her make her choices without forcing his choices/opinions on her is a feminist. A transgendered who wants

equal treatment and respect like any other human being is a feminist in a way.

So like few days back i was reading somewhere that a girl in a bus calling herself a feminist didnt give a seat to 70yrs old man who was sick, if this is what that what they called feminism then I'm surely not a feminist but thankfully its not the definition.

Another vicious quote on social media that i came across where the girl captioned her picture, “all men are trash, now they dont give us butterflies, they are giving headaches only”.

Okay! Maybe the men in her life who caused her trauma definitely deserve a punishment but why should we generalise and put all the men in one bracket. I saw many girls most of them minor, captioning their pictures with words like, “surrender because you are men and I'm a feminist”, like seriously what's that supposed to mean.

There are so many other incidents that we come across daily but the point here is pseudofeminism is all about female supremacy and hatred for men. Its not about equality but  revenge for the atrocities and the dominance and the abuse faced by the women at the hands of some petty men, not all of them.

But the most disturbing fact is that how these pseudofeminists scout flaws in everything men do, finding ways to make them look them bad, by portraying them as accused if nothing works for them or according to their choices, then playing the victim card and the outcome of this, is as same as that of Rahul's suicide.

Boislockerroom incident also exhibits the mindset of these pseudofeminists, where a girl in a bid to check and find flaws among her male friends blew the whole thing out of proportion by inciting the members with some instigating questions.

And what we did without acknowledging the whole matter, we again shared the incident on our social media as shameful and disgrace and such thinking is only going to make our society hollow.

In conclusion, I just want to say that half-baked knowledge is worse than ignorance and before branding men with words like pervert, it's better to clarify all the facts so that, all the hardwork that has been done for decades for women empowerment and equality shouldn't be ruined.

The author is a student of law from Poonch.